I know the title sounds horrible and you’re probably thinking to yourself, “well, if her sister didn’t know she unfollowed her on Facebook before now, she most definitely knows NOW, now that she has posted it online …”
But, what you don’t know is that I have three sisters, all of whom are on Facebook so they’ll never know. I think I’m safe. I think.
Yes, I unfollowed my sister for a period of time AND now do follow her again for the record. I have also unfollowed a number of very close friends, for one very simple reason: reading their posts was upsetting me on a regular basis.
Now, yes, maybe this is my problem. Maybe I’m insecure, maybe I can’t be happy for others, maybe I should learn to dig deeper emotionally because nobody, and certainly not a Facebook post, can or should “MAKE ME” angry, only I have control of that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I know this.
Here’s the general rule I follow: if I notice a pattern where every time I read someone’s post or see their pictures I’m doing an internal eye roll (or maybe it’s even external!), I’m mumbling under my breath or want to throw my computer at the wall, then it’s not worth it.
Clearly, I am not jiving with the energy they are putting out there, and I personally, think that’s okay. Rather than torture myself and let all that negative energy stew and affect my day as well as my relationship with them, I simply “unfollow” the person.
And you know what? It is amazing. It really works.
I don’t miss the posts or them (or should I say their profile). I can still see them in public and enjoy them MORE. I find some people are not the same online and the stuff they say or share is bonkers – too personal, fishing for compliments, braggy and know it all, perfect and oh so filtered, overshare, over tag, … I’m sure you can think of someone in your feed who fits each of these categories.
Well, it’s not worth it to me. Even if it is my sister. I’d rather catch up on the phone, live or in person.
Do you have someone you have unfollowed?
Can you think of someone you would like to unfollow? What’s stopping you?
From my kitchen table to yours,